Raise your hand if you and your spouse get along all the time and it is always hearts, rainbows, and puppies. If you raised your hand you are either lying or living in denial. It is just a common fact when you spend a lot of time with one person there are going to be disagreements, arguments and fights. Not only that, but when you live with someone you notice ALL.THE.THINGS. Like the way they chew, their loud breathing, snoring, the way they load the dishwasher, fold the laundry, and the list could go on and on.
One thing that can always guarantee some bickering between Matt and I is driving. It doesn’t matter if it is a 5 min drive or 15 hour road trip to Michigan. If he is driving I have something to say about and I would rather get to my destination alive , Okuurrrt, and he’s all but did you die!
Healthy couples fight. That is all there is to it. However, there are tools we can use to fight fair, which is commitment 2 in, “From This Day Forward.”
Honestly, this is one area I struggle in. I tend to shut down and bury things and my husband wants it solved immediately. We aren’t a perfect couple but with God’s grace we always come back to each other over and over.
.. Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, 20 for man’s anger does not bring about the righteous life that God desires. James 1:19-20
There is a reason the Bible tells us to be quick to listen and slow to speak. When both spouses strive to listen to one another before they respond in anger it allows both to be heard.
Fighting fair also means guarding your words. Early on in our marriage Matt and I decided we would never call names and we would never threaten divorce. If you’re tempted to do any of those things remove yourself from the situation and calm down.
If you haven’t yet, get the book “From This Day Forward.” There are more practical disciplines that you and your spouse to implement in your marriage. Seriously, do your marriage a favor and get this book.