This past weekend I had the privilege of attending the wedding of one of the students in my youth small group all four years of high school. It was one of the most authentic and heart felt ceremonies I have seen. The love of God and purity of heart radiated from both the bride and groom as they recited their vows.
“Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral.” Hebrews 13:4
It’s not hard to see that in the culture we live in today marriage becomes less and less sacred. To some it is just a contract between two people rather than a covenant before God. We seem to forget that marriage should be honored by ALL, whether you are married, single, divorced, or widowed.
I truly believe there are so many more attacks against purity in marriage today than ever before. Between internet websites, social media, smart phones and not to mention websites for the sole purpose of helping you cheat on your spouse. *mind blown* So, in todays culture how can we stay pure in our marriages? I don’t pretend to have all the answers in this area but I can share with you what my husband and I do in our marriage to stay pure.
First, we both have each others passwords for all our devices. This doesn’t mean that we don’t trust each other it means we love each other and have nothing to hide from one another.
Second, there is no reason for my husband not to know where I am at any given moment on any given day. It’s not that either one of us ask constantly where the other is or what they are doing. But we both share and offer up that information willingly.
Lastly, We don’t engage in text message or any type of messaging with the opposite sex. My husband never counsels or meets with women alone in his office. To us, this isn’t over kill or ridiculous. This is us safe guarding and honoring out marriage. We don’t stay pure by accident but by honoring our marriage. Like my pastor said, “why resist a temptation in the future that I have the power to eliminate today?”