Can I get a heeeyyyyy from all my introverted mommas out there!
Most mornings I wake up with a little freckled nose 1cm from my face. Have you ever wondered why we always seem to wake from a dead sleep when our kids are RIGHT THERE?
Seriously, how do they do that?
The first thought that runs through my head is, “Do I have to mom today?” Don’t get me wrong I love being a mom, but learning to balance my mom time, wife time, and me time is an ongoing struggle for my introverted brain!
I want to share three things I do on a regular basis to avoid a mental breakdown of the mom kind 😉
1) Be the one on one mom. What do I mean by that? Ok, I struggle keeping my cool while being asked 2348975982 questions at a time, holding a crying baby, and cleaning up crumbs. Seriously, as I type my 16 month old is climbing all over me and my 7-year-old just came in my room and asked, “Mom, is Amber real?” My response, “HUH?” I realize I may not be the best mom day-to-day when I’m trying to survive with 3 kids all at once. But you know what? I ROCK those one on one days with them. My son and I have great conversations about things he loves when it’s just him and I. I’m able to tunnel my focus solely on him, encourage and build up. When it’s just my 5-year-old daughter and I getting our nails done, it’s in those moments that I hear her heart the most and she hears mine. When I am rocking my youngest at night I can fully appreciate that she wont always be this little. I have to create one on one time with each of them to balance my crazy throughout the week.
2) Be the date night wife. My husband and I make it a priority to do a date night every week. Sometimes we dress up or sometimes we just work out together. Not only does it strengthen me as a mom to spend time with their dad, but it also energizes me after being around little people all week. Regular time with my husband reminds me I am more than a mom with stretch marks and food in my hair. I am loved, appreciated, and desired.
3) Be the selfish mom. Hear my heart on this one. It’s ok to be selfish sometimes and spend time doing something for yourself. Find out what energizes you and do that! I love doing so many things by myself, but my favorite is reading. I am a better mom because my husband allows me time to get away and do something once and while, whether it’s for a whole night or just a couple of hours. I refuse to feel quilt for something that makes me a better mom! That alone time is a lifeline that is handed me when I feel like I’m drowning in diapers, random 7 year old questions, legos, and demands. One thing I do everyday is take 15 minutes to drink my coffee and read. During this time I make my kids ,yes I said make, go entertain themselves and find something to do. God gave them an imagination they just need help finding it sometimes. 😉
I wasn’t always so confident in my mom skin. There was a time where I felt like God made a mistake and forgot to put the tender-hearted, patient mom gene in side my heart when he created me. I had to realized that God NEVER makes mistakes and that I needed to stop putting myself in a box of what I thought a mom should be and own the mom HE created ME to be.
-that sassy mom